I have experienced depression for many years since I was young and can honestly say I have felt much less depressed since I stopped taking all those damned anti depressants I have been subscribed over the years! It has been over a year and has been so refreshing! I was recently reading an article that stated people who experience or are prone to depression are those type of people that are less likely to lie to themselves and face problems. Hence they experience more anxiety about some things... They say having a positive outlook and sometimes lying to ourselves in harmless ways can actually make us less stressed, more hopeful and not so hard on ourselves in day to day life. It was a very interesting article. It went on to discuss people who take lying to an extreme as a means of avoiding their feelings, their feelings about themselves in relation to others and their use of lying as an avoidance mechanism to avoid their own faults. Here are some excerpts.
Why do people lie compulsively?
-Compulsive lying may originally be prompted by the fear that you are not interesting enough. And so you invent stories that create the image you want to project to others.
-Compulsive lying may also be prompted by perfectionism. If you can't stand the thought of not being perfect, you may lie to cover up your normal human failings.
-People sometimes lie because they want to tell others want they think they want to hear.
-Compulsive lying may also be stimulated by boredom - we all like to feel that our lives are exciting, so we may lie to bridge the gap between the way things are and how we would like them to be.
Experts say these liars commit the worst lie of all -- they lie to themselves by denying their own truth and distorting their own reality.
People may embellish their credentials or strengthen their stories and often tell untruths to make themselves appear and feel better.We make ourselves look better than we really are because we want to be liked and admired. We exaggerate our circumstances to pump up our egos or to conceal shame, fear and disappointment. It may be too embarrassing or painful to confront the truth about ourselves.
By honestly acknowledging our embarrassing mistakes and shortcomings -- to ourselves as well as to others -- we are most empowered to learn what is required for improvement......